Pre-teen & Teen

Information on Adolescent Development:

How much do you really understand about the teenage years?
“When you consider that the teen years are a period of intense growth, not only physically but emotionally and intellectually, it’s understandable that it’s a time of confusion and upheaval for many families.”

Understanding the Teenage Years

Young Teens (12-14 years of age) Developmental Milestones – This is a time of many physical, mental, emotional, and social changes. Hormones change as puberty begins.

Teenagers (15-17 years of age) Developmental Milestones – This is a time of changes for how teenagers think, feel, and interact with others, and how their bodies grow. Learn more.

Teens (Approximate Ages 12-19)  – As a parent of a teen, you are beginning to see your child become an adult. These are critical years that will affect both their current and future health. These links will help you learn how to guide your teen to become a healthy and productive adult.

The Teen Brain – Frontline Documentary. Teenagers are often described as erratic, unthoughtful, and rapidly changing human beings. But is there a universal explanation for the stereotype?

Hard Lesson in Sleep for Teenagers

Early Adolescence and Anxiety about Growing Up

Separating from childhood and entering adolescence (ages 9 – 13) can be scary.

Mid-Adolescence-13-15-Urgency for Freedom
Mid-adolescence begins a period of more frequent and intense conflict between parents and teenager. Why? The answer is, because now freedom matters to the young person more than ever before.

Late-adolescence (15–18) = Acting More Grown Up. What do late teens think acting “grown up” means?


Information about teen stress and anxiety:

Teen Stress. You may have caught yourself thinking, “Teen stress? Wait until they’re older—then they’ll know stress.” Yet teen stress is an important health issue.

Stressed-out teens, with school a main cause
U.S. teenagers report feeling more stressed-out than adults do, with school being a main cause, according to a new survey for the American Psychological Association.

When Young People Suffer Social Anxiety Disorder:  What Parents Can Do
Social anxiety disorder (SAD), or social phobia, can have a crippling effect on young people. Children who avoid raising their hand or speaking up in school can become tweens who withdraw from extracurricular activities, and then teens who experience isolation and depression.

Information about media and technology use by teens:

Toxic Shock. In this video, social researcher, Maggie Hamilton paints a picture of the landscape that is causing some of the anxiety our children are experiencing.

How Has Social Media Changed Teen Girls’ Lives?
You may think you know what teen girls’ digital lives are like — they’re glued to their cell phones, they’re hooked on YouTube and Twitter, they post a lot on FacebookInstagramSnapchat, and Vine, and they sometimes get embroiled in online drama that borders on or becomes cyberbullying. But as journalist and author Nancy Jo Sales (The Bling Ring) reports in her bestselling book American Girls: Social Media and the Secret Lives of Teenagers, there’s a whole lot parents don’t know about what teen girls face online.

How to Help Girls Navigate Pressure to Be “Real” Online
There’s something weird going on in the world of teenage girls’ social media. Posting pictures of your perfect, airbrushed life is out. Posting pics of your most intimate self is in. Girls still want “likes,” but the lengths some are willing to go to get them — whether it’s revealing a tearstained face after a breakup or a close-up bikini shot — put them at risk for online sexual aggression, emotional trauma, and damage to their reputations. Even worse, it prevents girls from finding out who they really are on their own terms.

Teens on Social Media
Teenage boys and girls don’t use social media in the same way.   Girls are more likely to make friends, and lose friends, on social media.

Study: Texting while driving now leading cause of death for teen drivers.
Texting while driving has become a greater hazard than drinking and driving among teenagers who openly acknowledge sending and reading text messages while behind the wheel of a moving vehicle.

How parents monitor their teen’s digital behavior.

Teenage girls:

The paradox of teenage girls today: Are they too grown up or lagging behind?It’s not new information that teenage girls want to be older than they are. What is new is that in their race to grow up, they are thwarting their personal development.

Breast and Body Changes Are Driving Teen Girls Out of Sports
Research shows that girls tend to start dropping out of sports and skipping gym classes around the onset of puberty, a sharp decline not mirrored by adolescent boys.

6 Signs Your Child May Have an Eating Disorder
Eating disorders are characterized by unhealthy approaches to eating, weight and exercise.

Teen eating disorders: Tips to protect your teen
Concerned about teen eating disorders? Know what contributes to teen eating disorders, the consequences of eating disorders and the best strategies for prevention.


Vape Culture Attracts Teens, Poses Harmful Risks
According to the Centers for Disease Control and Prevention, use of e-cigarettes by middle and high school students nearly tripled from 2013 to 2014, creating a “vape culture” among today’s young people.

E-cigarettes may be causing new health risks, and increased vaping among teens troubles me 
According to the latest National Youth Tobacco Survey released by the Centers for Disease Control this week, e-cigarette use among middle and high school students tripled in 2014.

How to Talk to Your Teen About Vaping.   It’s a new generation, and there’s another way to hook kids on nicotine. In a few short years, e-cigarettes and other vaping devices have shot up in popularity. They’re the latest method to deliver nicotine ­along with mixtures of chemicals that users suck into their lungs.

Parent/Teen Relationships:

Parenting Tools. “As parents, we can help our teens stay safe and healthy. We can support our teens’ healthy relationships. We can help them identify relationships that are unhealthy. We can help them stay on track to achieve their life goals.” Great sight for learning how to talk to your teen about the tough issues.

Importance of Communicating to Your Teenager

Encouraging Your Teenager to Communicate

Rules of Good Communication

Communication — Helping Your Child Through Early Adolescence.


Hold On to Your Kids: Why Parents Need to Matter More Than Their Peers by Dr. Gabor Mate’ and Gordon Neufeld. “This book is about the pivotal importance of children’s relationships to those responsible for them and the devastating impact in today’s society of competing attachments with peers. However it is much more than a book on peer orientation: it is about parenting with relationship in mind.”

Childhood Unbound by Ron Taffel. Taffel “offers an empowering explanation and concrete techniques to handle the challenging and new behavior parents face today from their 21st century kids: back-talk, a sense of entitlement, endless negotiation, and sexual behavior at ever younger ages.”

Breaking Through to Teens: Psychotherapy for the New Adolescence by Ron Taffel. “In this book for all professionaho do any type of counseling – in agencies, schools, hospitals, or private practices — Ron Taffel presents a new framework for working with teens for whom high-risk behavior and lack of adult guidance increasingly come with the territory.”

The Distraction Addiction by Alex Soojung-Kim Pang
Getting the Information You Need and the Communication You Want, Without Enraging Your Family, Annoying Your Colleagues, and Destroying Your Soul

The Big Disconnect by Catherine Steiner-Adair with Teresa H. Barker
Protecting Childhood and Family Relationships in the Digital Age

The App Generation by Howard Gardner and Katie Davis
How Today’s Youth Navigate Identity, Intimacy, and Imagination in a Digital World